09 May 2012

Is being 'one of the guys' a good thing?

I have always loved playing with the boys.  Perhaps, that is because I looked up to my older brother so much when I was younger... still think he does really great things to this day.

My comfort with guys sometimes leads them to talk about things around me that they wouldn't normally talk about around girls; things my teaching/coaching colleagues and fathers I know sometimes reprimand young males for talking about in front of girls.

There are fart jokes, poop jokes, sex jokes, jacking off jokes, body shape jokes, you name it is discussed with me or talked about in my presence.

It has been like this for so long that I can't remember when I wasn't seen as "just one of the guys" in different social situations with close male friends.

Does this mean they don't see me as a girl?  If not, what do they see me as?

Does it mean that they are so comfortable with me that it doesn't matter that I am a girl and they will talk about whatever, whenever?

Does it mean that they don't consider me, or any one around, and just talk about whatever they want regardless of who's in their presence?

I'm really not sure.

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  1. Judy09 May, 2012 15:27

    I think it would be great to be one of the guys! However . . . ta da . . . the big HOWEVER :) Ultimately, when it counts, I hope they treat you with the respect that you deserve!

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    1. a.eye10 May, 2012 06:33

      Good "however". They definitely treat me with respect because I wouldn't allow it any other way. If they didn't, I was the lone female wrestler in my high school and I still remember some moves to take down even the biggest of guys. ;-)

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  2. Journey of Life09 May, 2012 17:08

    I always love hang out with guys. One thing I know, they are not sensitive :-) So I don't have to watch what I am saying. On the other hand, I am also worry if they see me as a woman. Why? Because I am a wife and a mom :-)
    So seeing me as one of the guys may not be a bad idea at all...

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    1. a.eye10 May, 2012 06:34

      Good point! I guess since I'm in a relationship and am not trying to be with any of the guys, it is probably better that they don't see me as just any other girl.

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  3. Winnie09 May, 2012 20:59

    I think it is great!

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    1. a.eye10 May, 2012 06:35

      I agree, it has it's benefits and I love hanging with all the different guys in my life!

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  4. Patricia Stoltey09 May, 2012 21:18

    I wish I knew the answer to that, but I'm used to be pals with a lot of guys when I was in high school too (which was a very long time ago), and I never figured out what those strange humans were thinking.

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    1. a.eye10 May, 2012 06:36

      Besides the obvious dirty jokes and obscene gestures and ogling over people they are attracted to, I'm not really sure if we can ever really figure them out completely.

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  5. Winnie10 May, 2012 08:38

    Thanks for stopping by my blog! I am not selling cards yet as I am so new to blogging etc. I hope to eventually sell on Etsy. Thanks again. Can't wait to read more of our blog.

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    1. a.eye10 May, 2012 22:04

      I hope you do start selling... I've seen a few that I really liked and would love to share with people! Good luck as you try and grow!

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  6. lisacng10 May, 2012 11:58

    As long as no lines are crossed, great to have another perspective on life, even if it's gross one ;)

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    1. a.eye10 May, 2012 22:04

      It is great! I love hearing different perspectives of all ages, genders, and ideologies.

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