I saw someone post this either on FB or Twitter and thought it was brilliant.
Only issue is that I need to better heed the advice.
I am going to try to live by this idea.
When I am not smiling, I tend to have a really serious look on my face. There are students and grown-folks who tell me that I need to smile more. I have started to smile more even when I don't feel like it. I try to always greet people with a smile. Even when I walk down the halls at work or walk down the street or walk down aisles in stores and come across a person, I smile at them. Often, I get a smile back. Other times, I am ignored, other times, I get a strange look - I guess some people are not used to seeing a friendly face.
I still feel that I have times when I am worrying about something that I am not smiling at people. I need to worry less so that I can smile more.
When people I care about criticize me, I get defensive and close up a bit to what is being said. I guess that I really want to be accepted by people I care about and don't want for them to be seeing the negative sides of me.
In becoming defensive, I sometimes miss what they are saying or don't want to admit that I am in the wrong. I make excuses for my actions - sometimes ones that don't really make sense.
I heard a quote (sorry I can't remember who it was from) that I try to repeat that summarizes what I need to do with this part of the poster
We receive great value from being open to feedback without becoming defensive.So true. I am already getting better with this, and am already taking steps to address some of the issues that have been brought to my attention.
If I can accept criticism, I will be able to smile more during these conversations with loved ones and worry less about how I come across since I will be working to better the aspects of me being criticized.
I need to do more of this.
I take responsibility for my failures to act. I take responsibility for my mistreatment of people. I take responsibility for my life being the way it is.
A motto I recite each morning is "Be better than you were yesterday."
Listen & love:
I love to love.
I love to listen.
With all this technology in my hands, though, I find that sometimes I am distracted as I listen to people and don't hear everything being said. I am sure that I have missed out on some great things people have said IRL, on the telly, and even things I have skimmed over while reading because I was multitasking --unsuccessfully.
I need to be more responsible and be more present with people and with everything that I am doing.
I don't really have too much of an issue with this one. I don't hate people. I understand that some people are reflections of their environment.
I hate their environment. I hate their upbringing.
The older I get, the more I hate the systems that contribute to the way the society is set up. I hate that there are still racist ideas spewing out of people (regularly in comments on sites). I hate that politicians refuse to really address the racist comments that they have said. I hate that people are not willing to be respectful to the President and his family, even if they do not share his political opinions. I hate that politicians are not willing to work to better society mainly because they want to disagree with the administration. I hate how the economy is working right now. I hate that even in athletics there are discrepancies between how races are seen and how they participate. I hate that we have to make light of the fact that people say things about the other (or their own) races.
I could go on and on with things I hate.
I try not to worry about many of them, but they are in my face daily.
I know that I want a lot of things in my life to change.
I sometimes do not act because I am afraid of failure or what might be out there if I don't succeed.
I need to not worry so much, listen to people's support, and be more willing to embrace change.
Feel good anyway:
This one is simple, yet hard for me.
But I will try.